Dating Advice: How To Ask A Girl Out
Reader’s Question:
I asked this girl out. I’ve always liked her. Now, I’m very nervous and I don’t know what to do. Give me your best dating advice. Please.
Relationship Advice:
I’m proud of you.
Now, I have no idea how old you are or how young you are, so I will pretend that you’re young, short and pimply. Right now, I can’t decide if you’re chubby or not. I’ll settle that a little later.
Well, congratulations. You finally had the bells to approach her, recite the lines you memorized in front of the mirror several hundred times, and stayed conscious long enough to hear her say yes. You did not spontaneously combust. That’s good. On that part, you didn’t need relationship expert advice.
This is a very common predicament among young Romeos. Most of the time, our young Romeos would dream about scenes in which they approach their Juliets and say their lines eloquently with just the right amount of bass. The dream sequence would almost always include a close-up shot of the girl. Of course, Juliet would always say yes. Unfortunately, the movie ends there. The movie may show extended scenes of elation, some kissing, some more kissing and some other things depending on the mental age of the film maker, but never a scene about actual restaurants or places to go to and things to talk about.
Now, in real life, when the girl says yes, you have to take her somewhere. And that’s where you are right now. She said yes, and you don’t know how it’s properly done.
The thing is there are no clear-cut rules on how a date should be. There are no guidebooks on how to behave on dates. Well, there are movies showing marvelous dates that we can copy, but chances are you’re no Hollywood heartthrob.
If you want to impress your date, know the things she likes. You don’t have to ask her directly. You may ask her friends or your friends who know her. Find out her favorite restaurant or preferred spot in the desert. Know the food she likes and stay away from the things she’s allergic to.
It helps to prepare some topics that you can discuss in case your brain decides to do its impression of a clam during the date. The topics don’t have to be overly impressive. Leave nuclear physics to nuclear physicists. Make sure the topics are the ones you will enjoy talking about. Squirming in your seat is not sexy.
Although the best advice is to be yourself, to be natural; it doesn’t hurt to be prepared.
There’s your relationship expert advice.
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