Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
Reader’s Relationship Question:
I really need some expert relationship advice. I’ve been in a steady relationship for two years now with this girl I met in school, and we’ve been through a lot. However, things haven’t exactly been going well, and we’ve been fighting almost every day. I don’t think that we are that compatible, and yet I’ve gotten so used to being with her that I don’t know if I can leave her.
However, I met this beautiful girl at work, and she and I have been flirting the past weeks. We like the same things, and I feel that she’s attracted to me, even if she knows I have a girlfriend. I’m thinking of pursuing this girl, but I’m not too sure I’m ready to lose my current girlfriend. Please help me out — I’m confused and not sure what to do. Should I stay with the one who loves me or go after someone I think I can truly be happy with?
Relationship Advice:
You have come to the right place for dating advice. I know your situation is hard, especially since you’ve spent two years building a life with your girlfriend, but the longer you prolong this decision, the harder it will be for you. You have to choose now, and choose only one, to be fair to all the parties involved. Now, it is time for YOU to give yourself your own expert relationship advice by weighing things.
Think of what you really want out of a relationship. Ask yourself: do I want a long-term, committed relationship with someone I can love and trust until I die, or do I just want to be happy all the time? Relationships take work, and they are not going to be pretty all the time. If you say you want a partner in life, then you must be willing to work out your issues. But then again, if it really isn’t working out for you anymore, then you should sit down with your girlfriend and talk about the next step. Be honest with her — tell her you’re already attracted to someone else. If she still wants to work it out, and you think you can give it another go, then make sure that you stop flirting with your coworker.
On the other hand, if you’ve already exhausted what you can give in your relationship, then maybe it’s time to let go. It is really you who can tell yourself what you really want in a relationship. Once you have this figured out, the decision will be easier.
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